Dating and First Dates
Complete guide to dating and romantic relationships in inZOI, covering romance relationship stages (Terrible through True Love), how to start dating through flirting and compliments, planning dates via the Romance menu or Smartphone, date activities and goal checklists, recommended date locations, progression from dating to marriage, the Charm Skill connection, character creation tips for romance-focused gameplay, and practical advice for successful dates.
Dating in inZOI is the primary path to building romantic relationships between Zois. Most romantic interactions are available to Young Adult and older Zois, though Teenagers gained access to age-appropriate romance (crushes, confessions, first dates) in the v0.2.0 update. The full dating system covers romantic interactions. The dating system involves building romantic interest through social interactions, planning dates at various locations, completing date goals, and progressing through relationship stages that ultimately lead to marriage.
Romance Relationship Stages
Romantic relationships in inZOI progress through seven distinct stages. Each transition requires a successful conversation interaction that triggers the relationship to advance:
Stage | Description |
|---|---|
Terrible | The lowest possible romantic standing. Zois actively dislike each other romantically. Recovery from this stage requires sustained positive interactions over multiple in-game days. |
Uncomfortable | Slightly above Terrible. Zois feel uneasy around each other. Romantic advances at this stage are almost always rejected. |
Ambivalent | Neutral-leaning negative. Zois have no strong feelings either way but are not receptive to romance. |
Neutral | The default starting point for all new relationships. No romantic feelings exist yet. This is where all Zois begin with each other. |
Mutual Crush | The first stage of genuine romantic interest. Both Zois have developed attraction through flirting and compliments. Romantic interactions become more reliable at this level. |
Sweetheart | A committed romantic relationship. Zois at this stage are recognized as a couple. Deeper romantic interactions (physical affection, intimate conversations) become available. |
True Love | The highest romantic stage, required before a marriage proposal can be made. Reaching True Love requires sustained romantic investment and successful relationship-building over time. |
Each progression from one stage to the next is triggered by a specific conversation interaction. The game notifies the player when a relationship stage changes, and the new status is reflected in the relationship panel.
How to Start Dating
To begin a romantic relationship with another Zoi:
Click on the target Zoi to open the interaction menu.
Select "More" to expand the interaction categories.
Choose "Romantic" to see the available romantic interactions.
Start with low-commitment options like flirting and giving compliments. These build romantic interest without risking rejection.
If the target Zoi's romantic orientation is incompatible with your Zoi, romantic advances will be rejected immediately. Aromantic Zois reject all romantic interactions regardless of the initiator. Check a Zoi's profile to see their orientation before investing time in romantic pursuits.
Multiple simultaneous romantic relationships are allowed for unmarried Zois. There is no exclusivity requirement until marriage. However, pursuing multiple romances increases the risk of jealousy-related conflicts if the involved Zois discover each other.
How to Go on a Date
There are two methods for arranging a date:
Method 1: Direct Invitation
Open the Romance interaction menu when talking to a Zoi who has reached at least Mutual Crush stage. Select "Invite on a Date" or "Plan a Date Together." Choose a location from the available options. Both Zois will travel to the selected location to begin the date.
Method 2: Smartphone Scheduling
Open your Zoi's smartphone.
Navigate to Schedule or Events.
Select a time slot and choose "Make Event."
Select "Date" as the event type.
Choose your date partner from the contacts list.
Select a location, duration, and dress code for the event.
Confirm the event. Both Zois will be notified and will attend at the scheduled time.
The smartphone method is useful for scheduling dates in advance, especially when your Zoi has a busy career or school schedule. It also allows you to set a dress code, which adds a fun layer of preparation to the date.
Date Activities and Goals
When a date begins, an event checklist appears on screen with goals that contribute to the date's overall success. Common date goals include:
Goal | How to Complete |
|---|---|
Share a Meal | Order food at a restaurant or cafe during the date. Both Zois should eat together at the same table. |
Flirt Successfully | Use the Flirt interaction from the Romantic menu. The interaction must succeed (not be rejected) to count. |
Have a Deep Conversation | Select conversation topics that build emotional connection. Avoid small talk; choose meaningful discussion options. |
Physical Affection | Hold hands, embrace, or kiss. These options unlock at higher relationship stages. |
Completing more goals results in a better date outcome. Successful dates provide relationship meter boosts, positive mood effects for both Zois, and faster progression toward the next relationship stage.
Romantic Interactions by Level
The romantic interactions available during dates expand as the relationship deepens:
Interaction | Availability |
|---|---|
Flirt | Available from the start of any romantic pursuit. |
Compliment | Available from the start. |
Tell Romantic Story | Available at Mutual Crush or higher. |
Whisper Sweet Nothings | Available at Mutual Crush or higher. |
Hold Hands | Available at Sweetheart stage. |
Embrace | Available at Sweetheart stage. |
Kiss | Available at Sweetheart stage or higher. Physical affection interactions unlock together. |
Date Locations
The following locations are popular date spots with different atmospheres and available activities:
Location Type | Examples | Best For |
|---|---|---|
Cafes | Cafe Mar, Cafe Gaon | Casual first dates. Affordable food and drinks. Low-pressure socializing environment. |
Lounges | Lounge Gongmyeong | More intimate atmosphere. Good for advancing relationships past Mutual Crush. |
Parks | Free dates with no spending required. Walking paths provide natural conversation opportunities. | |
Amusement Parks | High-energy dates with many shared activities. Excellent for building the Fun need while socializing. | |
Home | Any owned property | Private dates with no travel time. Cooking a meal together at home can fulfill the Share a Meal goal. |
Progression to Marriage
The path from dating to marriage follows a specific sequence of milestones:
Build romantic interest to Mutual Crush through repeated flirting, compliments, and positive social interactions.
Confess your love using the dedicated interaction in the Romantic menu. A successful confession elevates the relationship to Sweetheart.
Continue building romance through dates, gifts, and romantic interactions to fill the relationship bar.
At high Sweetheart levels, the "Set the mood in front of bed" and "Propose marriage" interactions become available.
Continue romance until the relationship bar fills to unlock "Be together as true loves," which transitions the relationship to True Love.
Once at True Love, the marriage proposal interaction becomes available. A successful proposal leads to a wedding event.
The entire progression from Neutral to marriage can take several in-game weeks depending on how frequently your Zoi engages in romantic interactions and how many successful dates are completed.
Connection to the Charm Skill
The Charm Skill directly influences dating success. Higher Charm levels strengthen relationship gains from romantic interactions, meaning each flirt, compliment, and date produces a larger relationship meter increase. Charm also unlocks special dialogue options during dates that are not available to Zois with lower Charm.
Ways to level up Charm:
Engaging in romance conversations and dates
Reading Charm-related books from the bookshelf
Successfully complimenting and flirting with other Zois
Practicing social interactions in general
A Confident mood state increases Charm skill gains. Make sure your Zoi's needs are well-maintained before pursuing romantic activities to maximize the Confident mood bonus.
Character Creation Tips for Romance
When creating a Zoi focused on romance gameplay, the following Character Creation choices provide significant advantages:
Charming trait: Selecting the "Charming" trait during creation gives a permanent bonus to all romantic interactions, making it easier to build relationships from the start.
Life of a Romantic: Choosing "Life of a Romantic" as the Zoi's Desired Life aligns their goals and aspirations with romantic milestones. Completing Desired Life objectives related to romance provides additional rewards and satisfaction boosts.
Tips
First dates work best at low-pressure locations like cafes or parks. Save expensive or elaborate venues for later in the relationship when higher-tier interactions are unlocked.
Always complete as many date goals as possible. Even partial goal completion provides a relationship boost, but completing all goals gives a significant bonus.
Check your date partner's romantic orientation before investing time. Incompatible orientations result in immediate rejection of all romantic advances.
Use the smartphone scheduling method to plan dates during free time slots. This prevents dates from conflicting with work or school schedules.
Keep your Zoi's needs high before a date. Hungry, tired, or uncomfortable Zois perform worse in social interactions, making date goals harder to complete.
Physical affection interactions (Hold Hands, Embrace, Kiss) provide the largest single-interaction relationship boosts. Use them as soon as they unlock at the Sweetheart stage.
Multiple simultaneous romances are allowed before marriage, but be cautious. If two romantic partners are in the same location, jealousy interactions can fire and damage both relationships.
Cooking a meal together at home is one of the most efficient date activities. It fulfills the Share a Meal goal while also building cooking skills and satisfying the Hunger need for both Zois.