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11Overview22Romance is a core relationship system in inZOI that lets Zois form romantic bonds, go on dates, get married, and build families. The system supports same-sex relationships and allows players to set specific gender preferences during character creation. Romance follows a progression from strangers through Mutual Crush to True Love, with marriage available at the highest levels.44Only Adult Zois (Young Adult and older) can engage in full romantic interactions. Children cannot engage in romantic interactions. Teenagers gained access to age-appropriate romance (crushes, confessions, first dates) in the v0.2.0 update. Starting with v0.7.0, teenager Zois can date other Zois in similar age groups more easily.66Romance interactions are marked with heart symbols in the interaction menu. You can find the full list under the More > Romance tab when clicking on another Zoi. A minimum friendship level of roughly 20% is typically needed before romantic interactions appear in the menu, so it helps to build some basic rapport through friendly conversation before attempting to flirt.88Setting up Romance Preferences1111During character creation, you configure each Zoi's romantic preferences. These settings determine who the Zoi will accept or reject romantic advances from:1313SettingOptionsNotesGender IdentityMale, Female, NonbinaryDetermines how other Zois perceive this characterRomantic InterestYes / No (Aromantic)Aromantic Zois reject all romance and cannot progress past the Ambivalent levelPreferred GendersMale, Female, Nonbinary, or any combinationZois automatically reject romantic advances from genders outside their preferences1515Important: These preferences are locked permanently after character creation and cannot be changed later. Set them carefully. If a Zoi attempts a romantic interaction on someone whose gender falls outside their preferred genders, the target will reject the advance and the Love relationship meter may take a penalty.1616Romance Restrictions1919Only Adult Zois (Young Adult, Adult, Middle-Aged, and Senior) can engage in full romantic interactionsTeenager Zois can pursue age-appropriate romantic interactions with other teenagers, but not with adultsDirect relatives (parents/children, siblings) cannot romance each other, even if all parties are adultsAromantic Zois reject all romantic advances from any ZoiEach Zoi can maintain a maximum of 100 total relationships across all types (Love, Friendship, Family, Business). If a Zoi has too many friends and business contacts, they may hit the cap before forming new romances2121Romance Progression2323The Love relationship track follows a progression from negative levels through neutral to the highest romantic bond. Successful romantic gestures build the pink Love bar, while failed attempts cause penalties.2525Select Relationship Conversations2727When a relationship advances enough to upgrade to the next tier, a "Select Relationship" conversation prompt appears above the Zoi's head. You must initiate that conversation before further progress can be made. During the conversation, you choose between two interaction options tagged with "Select Relationship": one is positive (marked by an upward arrow) and will advance the relationship to the next level, while the other is negative and does the opposite. Picking the positive option locks in the upgrade; picking the negative option can downgrade or freeze the current level.2929Love Levels3131LevelWhat UnlocksTerribleLowest level. Result of severe romantic failures or deliberate conflict.UncomfortableNegative level from failed romance attempts or repeated rejection.AmbivalentStarting neutral state. Basic romantic conversation options begin to appear (Compliment Outfit, Flirt, Tell a Charming Story).Mutual CrushFirst formal romance stage. Unlocks dates, hand-holding, kissing, and whispering sweet nothings.SweetheartConfessed love. Unlocks intimacy ("Set the Mood in Front of Bed"), serenading, and marriage proposals.True LoveMaximum bond. Full marriage eligibility, strongest romantic interactions, and the Dance as a Couple interaction.3333Building Romance3434Romantic interactions unlock progressively as the relationship level increases. Early on, stick to light flirting and compliments rather than physical affection, since most Zois prefer an emotional connection before escalating. Higher Charm skill dramatically reduces rejection rates.3636Relationship LevelAvailable InteractionsAmbivalent (early)Compliment Outfit, Flirt, Tell a Charming Story, Compliment Their EyesMutual CrushHold Hands, Whisper Sweet Nothings, Tell Romantic Story, Embrace, Deliver Pickup LinesSweetheartKiss, Forehead Kiss, Kiss Passionately, Serenade, Set the Mood in Front of BedTrue LoveAsk Them to Marry You, Dance as a Couple3838The "Aflutter" mood triggers when romance is going well, unlocking unique interaction options that are only available in that emotional state. A stronger version, the "Dazzled" mood, can also trigger during particularly successful romantic interactions. Some ambition requirements specifically call for actions performed while in the Aflutter or Dazzled state, such as proposing while Aflutter or Dazzled for the Partners in Love ambition.3939One-Sided Crushes, Love Confessions, and Obsessions4141The v0.3.0 update introduced deeper emotional dynamics to the romance system. Zois can now develop one-sided crushes on other Zois who may not reciprocate. This creates a more realistic emotional landscape where attraction is not always mutual.4343Love confessions allow a Zoi to formally declare their feelings to another Zoi. The confession can succeed or fail depending on the target's current relationship level, traits, and mood. A successful confession advances the relationship, while a failed confession can result in awkwardness and a temporary relationship penalty.4545Obsessions can develop when a Zoi becomes fixated on a romantic interest. This manifests as intensified emotional responses and a stronger desire to spend time with the target Zoi. Traits like Charmer can make Zois more susceptible to developing obsessive romantic tendencies.4747Conversation Branching4949Since v0.3.0, romantic conversations branch into two to three possible paths based on the Zois' traits, current mood, and existing relationship level. Players can explore more conversation options without needing specific emotional prerequisites. Thought bubbles appear during conversations reflecting each Zoi's inner thoughts, helping players understand the emotional impact of their choices. Different relationship dynamics cause conversations to unfold in different ways, and the ratio of negative outcomes was adjusted for more balanced emotional flow.5151Memories and Romance5353The v0.7.0 update added a Memories system that records significant relationship events. Positive romantic memories (such as a first kiss or a successful proposal) can unlock additional interactions over time. Negative memories (such as catching a partner cheating or a painful rejection) also get recorded and influence future interactions. The companion Milestones system tracks important moments in a Zoi's life, including romantic milestones like first dates, engagements, and weddings.5555The Charmer Trait5757The Charmer trait is the primary romance-focused personality trait. Zois with this trait:5959Have a tendency to be fixated on relationshipsFrequently feel Aflutter (the romance-specific emotion)Build romantic relationships easily and faster than other ZoisLike discussing romantic topicsMay exhibit anxiety and possessiveness, fearing loss of affectionExperience sadness that lasts longer than normal when romance failsAre more susceptible to developing one-sided crushes and obsessions6161The Charmer trait is one of the two traits granted by the Life of Romance Desired Life (alongside Entertainer).6363Charm Skill6565The Charm skill determines a Zoi's ability to flirt, socialize, and engage in captivating conversations. Higher Charm improves success rates for romantic interactions and helps build relationships faster. A Zoi with high Charm is far less likely to be rejected during flirting attempts.6767MethodDetailsRomantic interactionsFlirting, complimenting, and having love-themed conversations with other Zois. This is the most natural way to raise Charm.Reading booksRomance and relationship-focused books from libraries, bookshelves, or tablets. Titles like "Heart-Centered Leadership" specifically raise Charm. This method is slow but safe and risk-free.Online datingBrowsing dating services on a computer raises Charm without requiring in-person interactions. Married Zois can browse without upsetting spouses.Browse for Dating AdviceSelect any computer and choose "Browse for Dating Advice" to gradually increase Charm over time. Good for passive leveling.6969Each skill improves faster when paired with a mood that complements it. For Charm, the Aflutter mood provides a noticeable boost to skill gain. In the current Early Access build, the Charm skill does not unlock specific gated interactions as it levels up. However, the Nation's Sweetheart ambition requires reaching Charm Level 10 at its highest tier.7070Trait Compatibility7272Relationships develop fastest between Zois with common personality traits. Incompatible trait combinations can create friction and slow progression.7474Pairing a Dominant trait with a Creative trait may make finding common ground harderSociable characters respond best to active, frequent attentionIntroverted characters prefer gradual relationship building with less overwhelming interactionsThe Charmer trait directly accelerates romantic relationship progression regardless of the partner's traits7676Since v0.3.0, traits also influence conversation outcomes. A Zoi's specific traits determine how they react to romantic situations, and trait-based autonomy interactions display explanatory speech boxes so you can see why a Zoi chose a particular response.7878Dating8080Once two Zois reach Mutual Crush, formal dating becomes available:8282Use "Invite on a Date" or "Plan a Date Together" from the romance menu, or open the Events app on the Smartphone.Select a time and location. Available venues include cafes, lounges, parks, Bliss Bay Amusement Park, and homes.Show up at the scheduled time. Arriving late or failing to show can lower the relationship.8484Dates include an activity checklist with goals such as "Share a Meal," "Flirt Successfully," or "Have a Deep Conversation." Completing these checklist goals provides a significant boost to romance progression. The date has a limited timeframe; interactions can be performed manually or automated. Successful dates increase the Love bar and can unlock new romantic interactions.8686Spouse Dating8888Starting with v0.7.0, married Zois can ask their spouses out on dates. Previously, the dating system was only available for unmarried couples. This addition allows married couples to continue going on formal dates together, helping maintain and strengthen their family relationship track over time.9090Teenager Dating9292Adolescent Zois gained access to age-appropriate romantic interactions in v0.2.0. Teenagers can pursue crushes, make confessions, and go on first dates with other teenagers in their age group. Adult romantic interactions (intimacy, marriage proposals) are not available to teenagers. The v0.7.0 update further improved teenager dating, making it easier for teenager Zois to date others in similar age groups.9494Phone Calls and Communication9696The v0.7.0 update added a phone call system that complements the existing text messaging feature. Zois can now call or receive calls from other Zois using their Smartphone. To call someone, you first need their phone number.9898Phone number exchange: Zois can ask other Zois for their phone number through a new interaction. The target Zoi may accept or refuse the request depending on the relationship level. Once phone numbers are exchanged, both Zois can call each other at any time. Phone contacts can be blocked or deleted if the relationship sours.100100For romantic partners, phone calls and text messages provide a way to maintain the relationship even when the two Zois are not in the same location. Romantic partners may send flirtatious messages and can make plans for dates via text. NPCs in romantic relationships will sometimes autonomously text the player Zoi with flirtatious messages and may bring flowers to a Zoi's apartment after working hours.102102Marriage and Weddings104104Proposing106106At the True Love level, the "Ask Them to Marry You" option becomes available. Successful proposals result in engagement. The proposal may be rejected if the overall relationship is not strong enough; building both the Love and Friendship tracks higher before proposing improves the odds. If rejected, try increasing the romantic and friendship relationship further before proposing again. Engagements can be called off at any time through the interactions menu.108108Wedding Options110110OptionHow It Works"Get Married"Immediate ceremony. Quick and simple. The Zois are married right away with no event planning required.Planned WeddingSchedule a ceremony through the Events app. Set a date, invite up to 50 guests, choose a venue, assign an officiant, set individual dress codes for each guest, and assign up to 7 recommended and 7 prohibited actions per guest.112112Remember to change the newlyweds' outfits to your preferred wedding attire before the event begins. The game does not automatically switch outfits for the ceremony.113113Planned Wedding Ceremony115115Planned weddings follow a scripted sequence of actions. Players can press play for automatic execution or manually select each action:117117Thank Guests for Attending the WeddingPrepare Officiant SpeechWalk Together Down the Wedding AisleWedding Speeches (only triggers if 3 or more Zois are attending)Exchange RingsGive Kiss Performance (added in v0.7.0)Go CelebrateExit Together Down the Wedding AisleFirst Dance (Dance Happily)119119The ceremony includes a Photo Booth feature for adjusting poses, expressions, and time of day for wedding photos. Guests can perform immediate actions like clapping or heckling during the ceremony. Skipping steps in the sequence may cause glitches that require the Emergency Rescue cheat to fix.121121After Marriage123123After the wedding, the romantic relationship converts to a Family relationship, which has its own separate track that resets to Neutral. The family track progresses through these levels:125125ItemDescriptionEstranged(lowest)Dysfunctional--Distant--Affectionate--Close--Loving(highest)127127A popup immediately appears after the wedding offering the option to move in together or split the household. Players are advised to keep the family relationship at the Close level at minimum. If it drops to Estranged, regular quarrels occur and divorce risk increases significantly.128128Moving in Together130130Moving in together requires marriage in the base game. When a Zoi gets married, a popup immediately offers the option to move to a new house together or split the household. There is no "ask to move in" interaction for unmarried couples.132132Workaround: Players can use the Manage Family system (press M, select Manage Zois, then Manage Family tab) to manually move Zois between families without marriage. The "Move Zois Between Families" and "Create Temporary Family" options allow household manipulation outside the romance system. This effectively lets unmarried partners live together.134134Multiple Romances and Jealousy136136Unmarried Zois: Can form romantic relationships with as many other Zois as they want simultaneously. There are no restrictions or jealousy consequences. Players have confirmed maintaining several True Love relationships at once with no issues. Unmarried Zois do not react when a Zoi they are romantically involved with romances someone else.138138Married Zois: Jealousy kicks in. Jealousy triggers automatically when a married Zoi witnesses their spouse engaging in romantic interactions with another Zoi in the same area. Physical proximity is the key requirement; the cheating must happen where the spouse can see it.140140When jealousy triggers:142142The witnessing spouse may confront the cheater, including slappingBoth Zois enter negative moods like Embarrassed and AnnoyedThe Affection (Family) relationship track takes significant penaltiesThe cheating Zoi's partner may send accusatory text messagesRepeated infidelity can sour the relationship to the point where divorce becomes possible144144Important limitation: Zois currently do not have persistent long-term memory for infidelity in Early Access (though v0.7.0's Memories system records major events). Negative moods recover over time, and relationships can be repaired through positive actions. Jealousy only triggers if the spouse is physically present on the same lot and can observe the romantic interaction.146146Breakups148148Divorce (Married Couples)150150To divorce:152152Select the married Zoi's interaction menu.Go to Conflict.Choose "Divorce".154154Divorce may not succeed on the first attempt. The family relationship typically needs to deteriorate to the lower levels first. Use multiple conflict actions (argue, insult, complain) over several in-game days to lower the relationship before attempting divorce. Once divorced, both Zois return to single status and can pursue new romances. Wait about five to seven in-game days after divorce before attempting to rebuild through small, casual interactions.156156Breaking up (Unmarried Couples)158158There is no specific "break up" interaction for unmarried couples. To end an unmarried relationship, players must use negative interactions repeatedly to degrade the relationship. Methods include:160160Performing rude social interactions (insults, arguments, complaining)Getting caught cheating by the partner (though this only works if married)Allowing the relationship to shift into dysfunctional territory through neglectAsking "for things to go back to how they used to be," though the partner may react negatively and resist the downgrade162162Relationship Decay164164Romance levels can decrease over time if neglected. The marital (Family) relationship scale can drop from Loving down through Close, Affectionate, Distant, Dysfunctional, and ultimately Estranged. Regular positive interactions are necessary to maintain the relationship. For the Love track, ignoring a romantic partner for extended periods will cause the bar to slowly decrease, eventually triggering a "Select Relationship" conversation that could downgrade the level.166166Intimacy168168At the Sweetheart relationship level, the option "Set the Mood in Front of Bed" becomes available. This initiates intimate interactions between the two Zois. The Zois head toward the bed, and a large pink heart with blurred surroundings obscures the scene.170170Intimacy requires a bed in the household and sufficient relationship levelIt is available for all romantic pairings regardless of genderSome Zois may refuse the interaction depending on their current mood and the relationship qualityMarried couples can unlock the interaction immediately at the start of the gameThe Set the Mood interaction does not result in pregnancy; having children requires a separate interaction and (prior to v0.2.0) required marriageAs of v0.7.0, the success rate of Set the Mood is influenced by relationship scores, making it more likely to succeed at higher relationship levels172172NPC Romance174174Player Zois can romance any unrelated adult Zoi in the world, including townies and NPCs. Simply approach them, build friendship through positive interactions until the 20% threshold is met, then transition to romantic interactions marked with heart symbols.176176At Early Access launch (v0.1.0), all NPC townies spawned as heterosexual. The v0.2.0 update (June 2025) introduced randomized sexual preferences for NPC Zois, allowing same-sex couples to form naturally in the world without player intervention.178178NPCs in romantic relationships will autonomously text the player with flirtatious messages and may bring flowers to a Zoi's apartment after working hours. With the v0.7.0 phone call system, NPCs can also call the player Zoi directly.180180Pursuit of Love Ambitions182182Two Ambitions focus specifically on romance. Both reward Meow Coins at each level.184184Nation's Sweetheart186186LevelRequirementsLevel 1Have 5 positive romantic conversationsLevel 2Have 50 positive romantic conversationsLevel 3Achieve Charm Level 10 and establish 5 True Love relationships188188Partners in Love189189LevelRequirementsLevel 1Establish one Mutual Crush; hold hands and talk 3 times with a Mutual Crush or higherLevel 2Hold hands and talk 10 times with Mutual Crush or higher; serenade a Sweetheart 10 timesLevel 3Propose while Aflutter or Dazzled; show affection to True Love 20 times191191Life of Romance192192The Life of Romance is a Desired Life that pairs the Charmer and Entertainer traits with the Challenger and Love core values. Its default Ambition is Nation's Sweetheart.194194ItemDescriptionAligned SkillsCharm, Rhetoric, Performance, Instruments, CookingCharacter concept"Seeks to engage in many relationships with various Zois and aims to stay true to their desires."Personality TraitsCharmer, EntertainerCore ValuesChallenger, Love196196Gift Giving197197Since v0.2.0, Zois can exchange items through new interaction options. Players can gift, give, or sell items from their Zoi's bag to other Zois. Gifting items to a romantic interest provides a boost to the relationship. With the addition of flower shops in v0.7.0, Zois can craft bouquets and flower baskets to give as romantic gifts. A high Gardening skill grants special effects on crafted bouquets, making them even more valuable as gifts.199199Romance Patch History201201VersionDateChangesv0.1.0March 2025Early Access launch with base romance system.v0.2.0June 2025Randomized NPC sexual preferences. Item gifting system. Children possible without marriage. Text message planning with romantic partners. Teenager romance (age-appropriate crushes, confessions, first dates).v0.3.0August 2025One-sided crushes, love confessions, and obsessions added. Trait-based reactions to romantic situations. Improved conversation flow with 2-3 branching dialogue outcomes. Thought bubbles for inner emotions.v0.5.0December 2025"Dance as a Couple" interaction added to Romance category. Conversations diversified to reflect Zoi characteristics, relationship points, and emotions.v0.7.0March 2026"Kiss Passionately" interaction added. "Give Kiss Performance" scripted action for weddings. Phone call system with number exchange. Spouse dating. Memories and Milestones systems. Set the Mood success rate now influenced by relationship scores. Teenager dating improvements. Trait-based conversation outcomes and special relationship buffs.203203Tips204204Set romantic preferences carefully during character creation. They cannot be changed later.Build at least 20% friendship before attempting romantic interactions. Flirting with a stranger usually fails.Level up the Charm skill early if you plan to pursue romance. Higher Charm dramatically reduces rejection rates. Reading books and browsing for dating advice on the computer are safe ways to level Charm.The Charmer trait provides the single biggest boost to romance. Choose it or pick the Life of Romance Desired Life for the fastest romantic progression.Complete date checklist goals (Share a Meal, Flirt Successfully, Have a Deep Conversation) for the best romance boosts during dates.The four relationship tracks (Love, Friendship, Family, Business) are completely independent. A Zoi can be at True Love with someone while also being their BFF and Business Partner.Unmarried Zois can date freely with no consequences. Jealousy only applies to married Zois who witness cheating in person.If pursuing divorce, use conflict interactions over several in-game days before attempting. Rushing it usually fails because the family relationship must be low enough.After divorce, wait about five to seven in-game days before attempting to rebuild the relationship through small, casual interactions.To move in with an unmarried partner, use the Manage Family system (press M) as a workaround since the base game requires marriage for cohabitation.Browse online dating on the computer as a safe way to level up Charm without risking awkward in-person rejections.Exchange phone numbers early in a budding romance. Having a phone contact lets you maintain the relationship through calls and texts even when the Zois are apart.Pay attention to thought bubbles during romantic conversations. They reveal the other Zoi's inner reactions and help you pick the right dialogue path.Craft bouquets at a flower shop and gift them to your romantic interest for a relationship boost, especially if your Zoi has a high Gardening skill.Married couples should go on regular dates (available since v0.7.0) to keep the family relationship track healthy and prevent decay toward Estranged.
