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Relationship Building Guide - Version 10 vs Version 11
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11Overview22Relationships are a core part of life in inZOI, shaping how Zois interact with the world around them. Every Zoi starts with neutral standing toward other Zois, and through repeated interactions, those connections grow into friendships, romantic partnerships, business connections, or family bonds. This guide covers everything you need to know about building and maintaining relationships across all four relationship types.44Relationship Types66inZOI tracks four separate relationship meters for every pair of Zois. Each meter fills independently based on the types of interactions performed.88TypeColorHow It GrowsFriendshipGreenFriendly conversation, telling jokes, complimenting, sharing meals, hanging out at community lotsRomancePinkFlirting, romantic gestures, confessing feelings, kissing, dating activitiesBusinessRedWorkplace interactions, business meetings, professional networking, and career-related social eventsFamilyBlueAutomatically assigned through birth, adoption, or marriage. Cannot be built through social actions alone.1111Friendship and Romance can coexist on the same pair of Zois. A Zoi can simultaneously have high friendship and high romance with the same person. Business works in opposition to friendship; building business tension reduces friendship and vice versa.1212Building Friendships1414Friendship is the most straightforward relationship type to develop. Any positive social interaction contributes to the friendship bar. The most efficient way to build friendship is through repeated friendly conversations and group activities.1616Best Friendship-Building Actions1818ActionDescriptionFriendly IntroductionThe first interaction with any new Zoi. Always start here.Tell a JokeBuilds friendship quickly and puts both Zois in a good moodCompliment AppearanceEffective and always available once friendship is above zeroShare MealEating together at a table or restaurant builds friendship passively during the mealChatThe basic conversation action. Low friendship gain per use, but always available and never failsDiscuss InterestsHigher friendship gain if both Zois share a hobby ortrait in common2020Friendship Levels2121The friendship meter progresses through several stages as the bar fills. Each stage unlocks new social interactions.2323LevelStatusUnlocked Interactions0-20%AcquaintanceBasic chat, tell jokes, compliment20-40%Casual FriendInvite to hangout, share secrets40-60%FriendAsk for favors, give gifts, heart-to-heart60-80%Good FriendDeeper emotional conversations, move-in request80-100%Best FriendAll friendship interactions available, BFF status2525Friendship decays slowly over time if Zois do not interact. Visiting, calling, or texting a friend periodically is enough to maintain the bar. Zois who live in the same household maintain friendship passively through daily interactions.2626Romance Progression2828Romance follows a structured seven-level progression system. Each level requires specific actions to unlock and advance to the next stage. See the Romance article for additional details.3030LevelRomance StageHow to Advance1StrangersPerform any flirtatious action (requires some friendship first)2FlirtingContinue flirting, use romantic compliments, build chemistry3First KissUse the "First Kiss" interaction when romance bar is high enough4DatingAsk to be boyfriend/girlfriend after First Kiss5Serious RelationshipGo on multiple dates, build trust through consistent romantic attention6EngagedPropose marriage (requires a ring)7MarriedHold a wedding ceremony or elope3232Romance actions are only available between Zois of compatible relationship preferences. inZOI allows same-sex romance, and the player can set each Zoi's romantic preferences during character creation.3333Starting a Romance3535You cannot immediately flirt with a stranger. A minimum friendship level of roughly 20% is needed before romantic interactions appear in the action menu. Once the friendship threshold is met, the following romantic openers become available:3737StepDescriptionFlirtatious JokeSafe opener with a moderate success rateRomantic ComplimentSlightly riskier but builds romance fasterConfess FeelingsHigh romance gain if successful, but can damage friendship if the target is not interested4040The Charm skill directly impacts the success rate of romantic interactions. A Zoi with high Charm is far less likely to be rejected during flirting attempts.4141Dating4343Once two Zois are officially dating (Level 4), they can go on formal dates. See the Dating and First Dates article for a full breakdown of date types and scoring.4545Date Types4747Date TypeLocationBest ForCasual DateCoffee shop, park, plazaEarly relationships, low commitmentDinner DateRestaurantMid-level romance, builds intimacyActivity DateArcade, beach, amusement parkFun-focused, boosts mood and romanceHome DateYour houseCooking together, watching movies, intimate setting4949Dates are scored based on the activities performed, emotional states of both Zois, and whether date goals are completed. A gold-rated date provides a large romance boost and a positive moodlet lasting several in-game hours.5050Date Tips5252Make sure both Zois have their needs met (hunger, bladder, energy) before starting a dateChoose locations that match the Zois' shared interests for bonus conversation topicsPerform at least 3 romantic interactions during the date for the best scoreAvoid arguments or embarrassing social failures during dates; these reduce the score significantlyGift giving during a date provides bonus points toward the date rating5454Proposing and Getting Married5656When the romance bar reaches the Serious Relationship level (Level 5), the Propose interaction becomes available. The proposing Zoi needs a ring in their inventory, which can be purchased from jewelry displays at shops.5858Proposal Requirements6060RequirementDetailsRomance LevelMust be at Serious Relationship (Level 5) or higherRingPurchase from a jewelry store orshopping area. Rings range from budget to expensive, but all work for proposals.MoodBoth Zois should be in a positive emotional state for the highest acceptance chanceLocationProposals can happen anywhere, but scenic spots increase the chance of acceptance6262After a successful proposal, the couple moves to Engaged status (Level 6). They can then plan a wedding or choose to elope.6464Wedding Options6666OptionDescriptionFull WeddingHost a wedding ceremony at a venue with guests, decorations, and a reception. Requires planning and a wedding arch.ElopementA quick, private marriage with no ceremony. Instantly changes status to Married.Destination WeddingTravel to a scenic location (like the beach) and hold a small ceremony there.6868After marriage, the two Zois can move into the same household if they have not already. Married Zois gain access to exclusive romantic interactions and can try for a baby.6969Jealousy and Cheating7171inZOI simulates jealousy when a Zoi in a committed relationship witnesses their partner performing romantic actions with someone else. Jealousy triggers a negative moodlet and can lead to arguments, relationship damage, or even a breakup.7373FactorDescriptionWitnessingJealousy only triggers if the partner Zoi is present on the same lot and can see the romantic interactionConfrontationThe jealous Zoi may autonomously confront their partner or the rival, starting an argumentBreakup RiskRepeated cheating incidents can cause the relationship to end. The betrayed Zoi may autonomously end the relationship.BusinessJealousy events build the business tension meter between the cheating Zoi's partner and the thirdparty7575To avoid jealousy, perform romantic interactions with other Zois only when the partner is on a different lot. Alternatively, some traits make Zois more tolerant of romantic attention toward others.7676Gift Giving7878Gifts are a powerful tool for building both friendship and romance. Any item in a Zoi's inventory can be given as a gift through the social interaction menu.8080Gift QualityRelationship BoostExamplesLowSmallBasic food items, cheap decorationsMediumModerateCooked meals, mid-range itemsHighLargeExpensive items, rare collectibles, jewelry8282Gift preferences are influenced by a Zoi's traits and interests. Giving a cooking-related gift to a Zoi with the Foodie trait provides a bonus. The relationship gain from gifts is separate from the gains earned through conversation, so combining both methods accelerates relationship building.8383Trait Compatibility8585Every Zoi has a set of traits that influence their social preferences, emotional responses, and compatibility with other Zois. While any two Zois can become friends or romantic partners regardless of traits, compatibility affects how quickly relationships develop and how smoothly interactions go.8787CompatibilityDescriptionComplementary traitsZois with traits like Romantic and Affectionate build romance faster togetherConflicting traitsCombinations like Loner and Social Butterfly may lead to more failed interactions and slower relationship growthShared interestsZois who share hobby-related traits (Foodie + Foodie, for example) unlock special conversation topics that build friendship faster8989Smart Zoi and Autonomous Relationships9090The Smart Zoi system (inZOI's autonomous behavior AI) allows Zois to build and manage relationships on their own when the player is not directly controlling them. Zois will autonomously chat with neighbors, invite friends over, and even develop crushes without player input.9292Autonomous romance is more likely between Zois who interact frequently and share traitsZois can autonomously break up or start business connections based on negative interactionsPlayers can disable autonomous romantic actions in the game settings if they prefer full control9494General Tips9696Focus on friendship first before attempting romance. A 20% friendship base makes early flirting much more reliable.Level the Charm skill to improve success rates on romantic interactionsCall or text friends regularly to prevent friendship decay, especially for Zois who live in different neighborhoodsUse group activities (meals, karaoke, beach trips) to build friendships with multiple Zois simultaneouslyThe Romantic trait speeds up romance progression significantly and unlocks extra romantic interactionsAvoid performing romantic interactions when the target's partner is nearby to prevent jealousy eventsGive gifts during dates for bonus romance points and a higher date ratingMarried couples can try for a baby, adopt, or seek medical help to start a family
